Thursday 14 March 2019

The Dangers of Anger

It's sometimes funny and laughable when you hear the reasons people get angry at one another but it'll also interest you to know that anger is one of the most dangerous thing to relationships, families and even personal life. It has indeed eaten so deep into the fibres of alot of persons particularly Africans.

According to the Oxford dictionary, it describes it as "A strong feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something, usually combined with an urge to harm". Wikipedia also refers to anger as an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat.
The above definitions of anger to a great extent make one understand that it is not just a momental absence of mind but an epidemic which becomes a pandemic when not controlled. I therefore describe this scaring word as an interval of time that can not be accounted for.
While enumerating things to run from, the Holy Bible first mention anger. "But now ye also put off all these; ANGER, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth" (Col. 3:8). All these put together you will agree with me without all reasonable doubt that anger has absolutely no advantage.
A large number of broken homes (marriages) today is majorly caused and traceable to anger. Over 40% of healthy relationships has been destroyed by this same "intense emotional state".
If indeed it is an emotional state often exhibited by humans then it is also possible to get rid of it if not absolute then put under string control.

Ways to subdue Anger

Recall that the Oxford dictionary refers to it as "urge", that means there is a latent force propelling or a push which comes with anger and as such a deliberate and conscious steps must be taken to avoid it.
1) Acceptance: One must first willingly agree that getting rid of this pandemic is possible and achievable.
2) Definite watch: A closer and deliberate watch on your emotions is good towards putting your anger under control.
3) Silence: Maintain absolute and total calmness when angry or about getting angry.
Speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret - Ambrose Bierce.
So you don't end up regretting or wished never said, just be quiet. "When angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry, count to a hundred" - Thomas Jefferson.
Remember, words are like spilled milk which can not be recovered.
4) The magic words: Get used to saying "I'm sorry", "Please", and "Thank you". I call them magic words because a continuous usage puts away the urge of getting angry.
You will agree with me that many of crimes committed in our society today is as a result of anger, I mean intensed anger. If only humans can manage and put this danger under check, our presumed enemies may be our friends.

Science has proven it that anger causes some health challenges like High blood Pressure, Anxiety, Headache and even physical tiredness.
Open Aunt Milda's chain letter has come out to say it takes 26 muscles to smile and 62 whole muscles to frown. Why frown yourself via anger into sudden old age and depression when you can smile yourself into good health, inner peace, joy, happiness and longer life?
In conclusion, why give the key of your freedom to anger? Why allowing yourself to be walked up by someone's attitude thereby getting yourself angry? Why giving anger the permission to make you unproductive within a period of time? Why resisting yourself from divine ideas? Why hurting your fellow human when you're meant be an inspiration?
All of the above, you've been put to take charge/control over in your day to day life. For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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